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Self Awareness Helps with the Most Stressful Life Events, 1

September 29th, 2014 · most stressful life events

The most stressful life events can exact a tremendous toll on us.  How can an increased level of self-awareness help us to cope with them?

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It might seem that stress and self-awareness are unconnected.  Yet, the more conscious that we can be of such connections at times when we confront stress, the more in possession of ourselves we can remain.

In the demanding “fall start up” season, many find a vast array of personal, professional and family activities and obligations make claims on their energy and stamina.

What Makes for Stress?

There are many potential sources of stress.  It’s created by all sorts of situations that require certain levels of performance, or that demand that we endure certain circumstances or to adapt to changed situations.

One of the greatest sources of stress in the most stressful life events is the way in which an outer circumstance activates a particular unconscious part of ourselves that reacts, sometimes very intensely.  We may carry these clusters of potential reactivity within us, and yet be totally or partially unaware of their presence.  We’re then be taken by storm when they are suddenly activated by a stressful circumstance.

Analytical psychology calls these inner knots or sensitivities complexes.  Some key examples of this kinds of knots of emotional energy are below.

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Money Complex.  Very many of us have had traumatic or fearful experiences around money or finances in the past.  For some, even the slightest financial trigger may activate this complex, with all the fear and defensiveness this causes.

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Authority Complex.  Like the money complex, those gripped by such complexes have often had traumatic or fearful experiences associated with authority figures in the past, whether the police, teachers or parental figures.  For such people, contact with authority may be debilitating.

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Performance Complex.  For some people, experiences around having to give performances or meet expectations create a mass of negative emotional association that gets activated every time they have to meet certain types of externally imposed expectations.

There are a great many other complexes that can powerfully impact us when we are confronting the most stressful life events.

What do We Mean by Self Awareness?

So, if we are facing an activated complex in the midst of a stressful life event, how can something called “self awareness” possibly help us?  Well that depends very directly on what we mean by the term “self awareness.”

If we are talking about some purely intellectual  understanding of connections between events in early life, and current levels of stress, it likely won’t help much.  But if we enter experiences at the root of the complex, if we understand how those feeling-toned complexes have influenced our lives, and we experience and accept our feelings, we may experience a lessening of the power of the complex, and we can find ways to hold the experience at arm’s length, to some extent, and not just be steamrollered by its emotional power.

Example.  I understand intellectually that my anxiety around money takes its cue from the anxiety around money that dogged my father all his life.  Yet, it’s quite different to feel the impact on me of incidents like coming home at age three to find him on the sofa, head in hands, crying, because he didn’t know how to pay the bills, and feared losing the family home.

Depth psychotherapy is very often an effective therapeutic approach for removing the power from those highly-charged emotional knots, our complexes, and for holding onto ourselves in stressful life events.  In the next post on this subject, we’ll  look in more detail at just how this can occur,

Brian Collinson, Psychotherapist and Jungian Analyst

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Dealing with Death in the Family: Depth Perspectives, 2

September 22nd, 2014 · dealing with death in the family

Part 1 of this series on dealing with death in the family examined the real nature of grief; here, we look at what coming to terms with loss of a family member really means.

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What are some of the things that actually go on within the psyche of a person dealing with death in the family?

The Inner Image of the Family Member

Self psychologists like Heinz Kohut see us as carrying within the psyche what they call the imago of loved ones, a kind of unconscious model or image of the family member, and of how we have experienced him or her.  When the individual dies, this inner partially unconscious image undergoes very powerful transformations.

An essential part of grieving is to find a way for psyche to move the departed individual from the realm of the living, to the realm of those who have passed.  This is an essential part of the grieving process, and is reflected in the dreams of those who are in grief.

That Which was Not Resolved

One of the hardest things to come to terms with can be the shadow of the deceased family member.  When an individual has passed it can seem unloving or disloyal to accept and face the aspects of the relationship with the individual that were painful to us, or dark.

To confront this reality may take us inside the entire shadow life of the family.  The grieving individual may need to confront and accept the ways in which the family as a whole required him or her to fit into a role that was inauthentic and that kept the individual from living contact with the true self.

Depth psychotherapy shows us that, sometimes it is only the grief of a great loss that can stir the forces inside an individual that lead to claiming his or her authentic individual life.  Jungian analyst James Hollis writes about an individual’s journey through grief that led him to face the ways in which his family of origin had disempowered, de-valued and used him, and how that pattern had been perpetuated in his marriage to a woman who died of alcoholism in her late 30s.

“Only great loss… provided the catalyst to encounter another loss which lay so deeply as to be unconscious–the loss of his own journey.  Only grief could stir him to finally face his estrangement from himself.  And only the betrayal of Anne could have led him to see the exploitative nature of his family relationships.

By dwelling in these dismal swamplands, and working through their grievous woundings, Devin recovered the life he was always meant to live — his own, not someone else’s.”


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SInce deep in pre-history, we humans have used ritual as an archetypal means of dealing with death in the family.  We know that humans have engaged in ritual around the death of loved ones for at least the last 100,000 years.

For many people the rituals of one or another organized religion fulfill this need, at least in part.  Yet, often individual created rituals in the midst of grief can also be of fundamental importance, and do much to heal the soul.  Individual ritual can participates in, and opens up, the archetypal character of human grief, the healing that can flow through it, and the on-going movement of life.

Grief counselling from a depth psychotherapy perspective assists the individual in accessing healing from the depths of psyche in the grieving process.

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Dealing with Death in the Family: Depth Perspectives, 1

September 15th, 2014 · dealing with death in the family

We live in a culture that often gives the message that the best manner of dealing with death in the family is really to not deal with it at all.


Yet grief and grieving are an essential part of the psyche coming to terms with the loss of a close family member.  We may well speak of an archetypal pattern to human grief.  U. Mass. Prof. James Averill has made a strong case that grief is a process of biological evolution that actually helps us adapt and cope.

 Is It O.K. to Grieve?

Is it “O.K.” to grieve?  The answer to this question might seem to be an obvious “Yes!”  Yet sometimes there are deep barriers to an individual truly grieving the loss of a family member.  These barriers can be within the individual him- or herself, or in those around them — or both.

When people grieve, it often makes others uncomfortable.  Sometimes other people don’t know what to say or do around a grieving individual, and sometimes, the pain of the grieving individual is an uncomfortable reminder of a person’s own losses, either past, or anticipated in the future.

But if grief truly is a biological, or even archetypal necessity for the individual to come to terms with loss, we cannot trivialize the importance of engaging in grieving.  The individual needs to face the loss, and those close to him or her must allow them

In my experience as a psychotherapist, it is very concerning when a child has not been allowed to grieve.  Often adults remain psychologically stuck exactly at the place where grief has left them as a child.

Aspects of Grief

We must emphasize that these aspects are not stages.  There is no right or wrong order, nor any way it “should” go.

Avoidance of grief is often an early response.  The grieving individual is consumed with the urge to recover the lost person, to bring them back into the relationship that has always been with the person.

Confrontation with the loss is another aspect of the process.  Here, the individual often experiences confusion, disorganization, despair, acute sadness, anger, sometimes guilt, and a range of other feelings felt acutely.

Re-establishment is a third, often less recognized aspect of the process. In this aspect, the emphasis is on the gradual decline of grief, and the individual gradually coming back into social and emotional connection with the everyday world.

Each aspect must be met and accepted by the individual.  Grief counselling in a depth psychotherapy context can often be very useful in assisting with this.

Grief is Very Individual

Depth psychotherapy recognizes that grief is the uniquely specific experience of an individual personality, who is in a uniquely individual relationship with the deceased.  The meaning of the grief experience, and the best way of dealing with it, will be an individual journey.  But rather than leaving the person alone to do that, depth psychotherapy provides a solid and unwavering support to the individual dealing with death in the family.

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The Grief Work has to Get Done

The individual must be allowed and enabled to grieve in their own way, and supported throughout.  Otherwise life stays in a holding pattern, because the need to grieve is a powerful enough force in the life of the individual to require them to do this healing work before life moves on.

Depth psychotherapy often greatly assists the grief process in following its natural, individual course.

Brian Collinson, Psychotherapist and Jungian Analyst

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Finding the Right Career in Midlife

September 8th, 2014 · finding the right career

Many people rightly realize that finding the right career in midlife is an essential piece of soul business — yet they might miss the most important parts of meeting that necessity.

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Why?  Well, because we often have an overly-romantic notion of career.

Dealing with the stresses and strains of mid-life, we can easily slip into a “magical” fantasy around changing one’s work.  We imagine that, in a new career, somehow the relationships will be great, the demands of work will be sufficiently low and the compensation and benefits so high that career change alone will facilitate our individuation, and surf us right through the second half of our lives.

Though career is important, this is magical thinking.  It keeps us from dealing with the deep issues of midlife.

The Central Question of Vocation

Before we can face the question of finding the right career, we have to face the question of what is the right individual vocation for me?

What is it that our fundamental being, our fundamental nature, calls us to do and to be?  We can’t answer that question in its entirety, but can we discern any clues?

Depth psychotherapist C.G. Jung speaks in very strong terms about vocation.  He couches it in the gender-limited phraseology of an earlier time, but what he has to say about vocation applies to both men and women today:

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Jung holds that the only thing that distinguishes the individual personality is this awareness of the reality of vocation, of being called by one’s own fundamental nature.  So the question of vocation hits the nail of individuation directly on the head.

The Connection Between Career and Vocation

Vocation is more fundamental and specific than career.  It matters more than career, because it connects more directly with our fundamental deepest identity — what Jung referred to as the Self.

Yet career is important!  The way that someone’s career intersects with her or his life may crucially affect whether that person is fulfilling his or her vocation, or not.  But it’s not true that “career equals vocation”.

For individuation to take root and flourish, an individual’s career must certainly not block his or her vocation.  But sometimes career and vocation can have a surprising relationship.   The poet Arthur Gregor, one of the greatest poetic talents to emerge in the United States in the 20th century, spent many working days as an engineer.  Einstein created much of the theory of special relativity while working in a patent office.  Socrates was a leather worker.  The only way to approach career in light of individuation is to rigorously ask oneself, “How does this job or career fit with who I am, really?’

Self Knowledge

Many pay lip service to self knowledge in the context of career or vocation.  However, by midlife, the true importance of self-knowledge, and the effort involved in obtaining it, and remaining true to it, often become readily apparent.  Often, the individual has started to experience aspects of his or her personality that he or she has been reluctant to acknowledge.  As they emerge, these unacknowledged aspects of the self can have a powerful bearing on vocation, and on finding the right career.

The Nature of Midlife

In midlife, the awareness grows in the individual that, now, he or she is playing for keeps.  While earlier periods in life may have been right for choices that could readily be changed, now the stakes are higher.  There is no more room for the provisional life.  The second half of life is the time to truly create the work of art that is one’s life.  Finding one’s true vocation is central to that, and finding the right career that will support and uphold that vocation is fundamentally important.

Depth psychotherapy may be essential for the individual to come to terms with vocation, finding the right career, and coming to meet and accept the as yet undiscovered self.

Brian Collinson, Psychotherapist and Jungian Analyst

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Adapting to Change in Your LIfe, 2

September 1st, 2014 · adapting to change

In Part 1, we saw how adapting to change has become constant in the 21st century;  here we focus on the Self, and the nature of authentic change.

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In some respects our culture seems addicted to very rapid change.  There’s a huge distinction to be made between the superficial churn that often characterizes our society, and deep changes or transitions in human life where something fundamental shifts.

Meaningful vs. Meaningless Change

Simply because our way of life is saturated with change doesn’t make all change meaningful or significant to the individual, or in line with the priorities of the self.  As a 21st century therapist, I’m well acquainted with clients in work situations who must deal with continual ever-churning change, and continual demands for adaptation — but where the required change in no way serves the individual’s true nature or need for growth.  Often, it doesn’t even enable them to better perform their work roles.  Change of this type is often a major source of burnout.

Yet, some change is meaningful.  It can help us to feel that we’re more aligned with our deepest selves, with who we really are, and that we are able to live in a way that honestly reflects our deepest values and yearnings.

As we move through the life cycle, it is this kind of change that we really need.  If we can’t find it, life tends to remain superficial , and we find ourselves increasingly alienated, and lost.  As C.G. Jung put it: Only what is really oneself has the power to heal”.

Change and Resilience

Many will tell you that change is good, if it is “more adaptive”.  But we have to be quite careful with this.  It depends what we mean by “more adaptive”.  Do we mean that the change in question allows the individual to express and live out more of themselves, more of who they are at the deepest level?  Then, from a depth psychotherapy point of view, that is genuinely good.  Such adaptation serves the person’s individuation, the on-going process of the individual becoming more and more who they truly are.

However, if “adaptive” change means that the individual merely alters themselves to survive under conditions hostile to their true identity, this clearly doesn’t serve individuation.  It would very likely not be a good thing for the soul to be “well-adjusted” in North Korea, or Nazi Germany.

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There is a persistent self, or identity in the deep levels of the psyche, that each of  us possesses.  We ignore this reality at our peril.

The Self as Abiding

Our era perceives everything as being in continuous, relentless flux.   The human self is commonly seen as completely malleable, insubstantial and re-structurable.  Yet the self is a solid, persistent reality.  It is essential to our resilience in adapting to change that we experience that reality, often symbolized by an ancient tree, with deep, persistent roots:

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or by mandalas:

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A key part of depth psychotherapy for those undergoing major life transitions is enabling individuals who may be overwhelmed by the challenges of adapting to change, to realize that there is a persistent solid center to the self, on which they can rely.

In the next post on this subject, we’ll  look in more detail at just how this can occur,

Brian Collinson, Psychotherapist and Jungian Analyst

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Adapting to Change in Your Life, 1

August 24th, 2014 · adapting to change

Whether we like it or not, 21st century life has made adapting to change a constant feature of our lives.

adapting to change As depth psychotherapy well knows, it wasn’t always so for the human race!  If we look at our ancestors in the paleolithic age, we know that social and technological change was vastly slower.  It wasn’t much faster in ancient Egypt or China or the Middle Ages and was in fact a great deal slower right up until the 18th century, when the industrial revolution started to bring change at an ever more rapid pace.

Endless Change

The pace of change in human life is still increasing — the automobile age, the computer age, the internet age, the digital age — and on, into the future. Today, we’re thoroughly inundated with change, and must continuously adapt.  We’re also bombarded with the message of the necessity of adapting to change. In fact, there is a danger in our time that we might not properly distinguish between deep, personal change, and the continual background churn of modern daily existence. adapting to change How do we discern those changes in our lives which are truly fundamental, and adapt to them in a way that is authentic, and that furthers our individuation?

The Real Nature of Life Transitions

Some changes are far more profound than others in their implications. Change is so pervasive in our time, that we run the danger of what experts like Harvard’s John Kotter call “change fatigue”, which is a form of burnout that stems from endlessly needing to adapt to new circumstances. Yet we also need to be open and responsive to fundamental life transitions. We need to accept these changes, let their meaning permeate us, and deepen our understanding and feeling of our own individual lives. Such changes are related to the emergence of our deepest identity and true character. We know this type of changes by the way it involves our whole being. Such changes may be extremely difficult or joyous or profound.  They can involve such things as grief, loss, betrayal, guilt, genuine religious experience, existential crisis, profound shifts in our self understanding, disability, serious illness of a loved one, and loss — or discovery — of a passion, dream or ideal.

Common Stages in Change

Often, these changes at the deepest level are characterized by three elements.  The first may be characterized metaphorically or symbollically as a death to a certain identity or understanding of ourselves.  The third, symbolically is a rebirth to a new or different identity or experience of ourselves.  In between these two is what anthropologists such as van Gennep would call liminality, an in-between period where the old identity has been left behind, and the new has not yet emerged.  Often, depth psychotherapy can assist immensely in making the transitions between these phases, which, in the case of major life transitions, can often be no small thing.

Real vs. Inauthentic Change

adapting to change Genuine meaningful life change, while often associated with great upheaval, ultimately take us deeper into our true identity — into the Self, as Jungians would refer to it. This is fundamentally different from inauthentic superficial change, which often leads the individual into a more and more frantic spiral in the attempt to perpetuate to themselves and others the illusion of the false self. In the second part of this post, I’ll look more at the psychotherapy of authentic and inauthentic adapting to change, and the importance of an abiding sense of self in the midst of change.

Brian Collinson, Psychotherapist and Jungian Analyst

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Who Does Depression Affect?

August 17th, 2014 · who does depression affect?

The tragic death of Robin Williams brings home a pressing question to all of us: who does depression affect?

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As many commentators have now pointed out, Williams’ suicide powerfully impacted a huge number of people.  Due to his TV and film presence, very many people felt closely connected to this very engaging, unbelievably high energy and truly ingeniously funny man.  That someone so loved by millions, so successful and so apparently in love with life as his public persona would suggest could take his own life has taken our manic-paced world and plunged us into an uncharacteristic state of deep reflection.

Depression Respects No One

Depression affects all age groups and types of people, and it might affect any one of us.

In fact, one important element of the upswell around Williams’ death may well be that it forces many people who normally would not do so, to confront the depressive person in themselves.

Each of us possesses the capacity for depression.  Each of us knows that, while we may not suffer from chronic, on-going depression, we have suffered from various forms or degrees of what are called reactive depression — depression that comes about as the result of life events.

From a Jungian perspective, many experiences of depression may potentially open a way into the real meaning and value in my life.  As James Hollis reminds us,

Everyone experiences depression from time to time.  

In every case, one has to ask the fundamental question,

what is the meaning of my depression?

Depression and Late Midlife

We see suicide as a huge problem for the young, and so it is.  Yet, statistics from the American Center for Disease Control show a growing suicide crisis for those in late midlife.  Between 1999 and 2009, suicide rates have most dramatically increased in the 45 to 54 age group, and secondly, the 55 to 64 age group, especially among males.

Who does depression affect?  Increasingly, this midlife group, men in particular, and sometimes so severely it leads to the tragedy of suicide.  Individual cases greatly vary, yet, often loss of key relationships, health or a long-held social identity, such as a work role, are key factors.  The persona, or socially constructed self, that may have provided a meaningful identity in earlier life now no longer fits.  The individual is thrown back on the key questions of who they most fundamentally are, and what in life is fundamentally meaningful.

Yet, Issues Around Depression Aren’t New

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Four thousand years ago, in a time of tremendous social upheaval and anxiety,  an Egyptian wrote a book called The World-Weary Man and his Ba (an ancient Egyption word for “soul”).  In that book, the narrator recounts his weariness of life, and his desire to commit suicide, and to travel to the afterlife.  Yet, his inmost self rebels, basically telling the man that he has no understanding of the importance of the here and now, or he could not even think of squandering his life in this manner.  The soul challenges the man to find his real identity, and his wholeness.

In our culture, we tend to flee from depression, yet almost all of us will have to face it in some form or other.  Finding a personal, meaningful and sustaining answer to the questions it asks is right at the heart of the work of depth psychotherapy.

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Depth Psychotherapy vs. Psychology: What’s the Difference? – 2

August 3rd, 2014 · psychotherapy vs. psychology

In my first post on depth psychotherapy vs. psychology I focused on the relationship and communication dimensions of psychotherapy; in this post, I look at depth psychotherapy’s approach to the individual person.

psychotherapy vs. psychology   To truly take the individual seriously is to move in some significant ways beyond the science of psychology per se.


Depth psychotherapy is particularly focussed on the client as a unique individual.  The individual, insofar as he or she is unique, cannot truly be the object of scientific study.  Science, whether physics, biology or psychology, is based on generalization and law-like regularity.  As such, it cannot take into account the genuinely unique aspects of an individual situation — or of an individual.

Psychology certainly can provide lots of insight that is relevant to an individual and his or her situation, and that may genuinely help.  But there are also the dimensions of an individual’s experience that are genuinely unique.   There are those who would try to explain this sense of uniqueness away, to reduce it to a mere illusion attributable to the interplay of the particular family, social and cultural environment and of genetics.  Yet every person undoubtedly has a strong subjective sense of his or her individual uniqueness, and it certainly seems that our individual stories have many unique features that differentiate us from others, even — or especially — those close to us. The existential, humanistic and, above all, Jungian therapeutic traditions have been particularly sensitive to the unique individual, and to exploring his or her individual reality in psychotherapy.

The “Depth” in Depth Psychotherapy

Another distinguishing factor in depth psychotherapy vs. psychology is the very dimension of depth itself.  By this, we mean the emphasis on the unconscious mind.  Now, as Carnegie Mellon researcher James Bursley shows us, the unconscious mind is once again coming to the fore in brain science and neuroscience. psychotherapy vs. psychology


Until very recent times, the unconscious had not played as central a role in the science of psychology per se.  Discussion of the unconscious was often branded as “overly subjective” and “not evidence-based”.
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Yet, depth psychotherapy has emphasized the importance of the activity of the unconscious in dealing with the situation of individual persons in therapy.  The unconscious, through dreams, through implicit knowing of the type discussed in attachment theory, and through reactions to everyday situations that we may not be consciously aware of, as in the phenomena of “projection”, and what we have all come to refer to as “Freudian slips”, often play an important role in depth psychotherapy.


Unlike psychology, which must concern itself with what is objective, provable and repeatable, the depth psychotherapist must use psychological knowledge, certainly, but must enter into the subjective and unique reality of the individual client, in terms of both the conscious and unconscious world of the client. It is this journey into the subjective reality of the client that forms the healing heart of psychotherapy.

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Depth Psychotherapy vs. Psychology: What’s the Difference? – 1

July 27th, 2014 · psychotherapy vs. psychology

Depth psychotherapy vs. psychology: people are confronted with so many “psych” words today that there is real value in clarifying the differences between these two things.

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I was a little reluctant to use “versus” or “vs.” in the title of this blog.  The word can tend to make it sound like depth psychotherapy and psychology are “opposed”.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  The differences between them are a question of priorities and emphasis.  And certainly, psychotherapy depends upon the knowledge gained through psychology.

The American Psychological Association tells us psychology is the scientific study of mental functions and behaviours.  In this broad sense, psychology is a fundamental foundation of psychotherapy.  Clearly, it’s essential that psychotherapy be informed and structured by clear understandings of mental functions, and how they relate to human behaviour.  But, by its nature, psychotherapy must go beyond mere study of the human mind.

University of Florida’s Prof. Michael Herkov identifies two special things about psychotherapy: the nature of the relationship; and, the nature of the communication.

The Psychotherapy Relationship

The relationship between a psychotherapist and a client has a special character. It  exists solely for the purpose of helping the client, and is designed to ensure that the therapist is completely “there” for the client.  The client is listened to, carefully — quite possibly more carefully than they have been listened to at any point in their lives.  As Jungians like to say, the relationship is a temenos, a Greek term used for the sacred enclosure around a temple.  The relationship is “sacred” and protected.  People can and do reveal things that they have never said to anyone before — because it’s safe to do so.

psychotherapy vs. psychologyPsychotherapy Communication

An old truism states that: “When a therapist asks how you are doing, he really wants to know.”  This is especially true of communication with a depth psychotherapist.

The depth psychotherapist doesn’t just listen for the sake of it!  He listens to help you make key connections with the deepest parts of yourself.  Feelings, thoughts and attitudes of the client, which may never have come to light before, may very well surface in the course of the dialogue between therapist and client.   Some of the connections and realizations the individual makes, may well be profound and life changing. psychotherapy vs. psychology

As you can see from our discussion so far, there are some very important differences relevant to the distinction of “depth psychotherapy vs. psychology “.  Where psychology works extremely hard at being a science, and expanding the scientific knowledge of human mental functioning and behaviour, depth psychotherapy is a healing art.  It uses psychological knowledge, but is also aware of broader human dimensions that necessarily go beyond the purely scientific to create the bond with the client that makes for effective psychotherapy.

In my next post, I’ll be looking at two other dimensions which make the depth psychotherapy vs. psychologist clarification even clearer: the psychotherapeutic understanding of individuality and the “depth” in depth psychotherapy.

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Emotions, Spirit, Mind & Body: Jungian Holistic Psychotherapy, 2

July 4th, 2014 · holistic psychotherapy

In my last post, I started  to explore the nature of holistic psychotherapy, and how Jungian therapy is truly holistic.

holistic psychology We can see this even more clearly if we look at some of the ways in which radically different elements of the personality interact — or conflict!  Jung, in his work on psychological types, showed that the functions and attitudes that exist in our psyche can often show us very different aspects of who we are.  Sometimes this can seem so true that different aspects of who and what we are can seem completely opposed.

Feeling and Rationality

For instance, there’s a fundamental split between rational, logical thought, and our own subjective reactions to things.  Could two things be more fundamentally opposed?  Yet here’s the important truth: both are parts of our journey to wholeness. It’s not enough to say, “Oh, I’m a thinking type” or “I’m a feeling type”.  To experience psychological wholeness, essential that we have the experience that both of these capacities co-exist within us.  They both are part of us, and a person needs both.

Intuition and Sensation

We experience a similar pair of opposites when it comes to intuition and sensation. Sensation refers to our perceptions by means of the sense organs.  Sensation is awareness grounded in the here and now.  It’s very present-oriented.  Sensation puts its faith in the kind of hard facts that are immediately available to the senses.  It sees a situation in terms of the details, rather than a comprehensive pattern. Intuition is pretty much the opposite of sensation.  It’s perception by way of the unconscious.  Intuition is our sense of things often guided by hunches and things the individual “just knows” — although he or she would have a hard time putting into words just why.  Intuition is future-oriented, and sees situations in terms of large, broad patterns. Again, to truly experience psychological wholeness, it would be essential that we experience our capacity for both intuition and sensation. holistic psychotherapy

Body and Mind

Another significant pairing explored in depth by key Jungian figures in holistic psychotherapy such as Marion Woodman and Joan Dexter Blackmer is the need to integrate mind and body Mind and body aren’t really opposites.  Yet in the 2,000 year history of the Christian west, it’s been very easy to ignore the body.  As Blackmer reminds us, …in order to develop the spirit and rational consciousness, Christianity had historically to declare the body untouchable — a kind of second-class citizen….  Untouched, repressed, denied, the body moves into the shadow, where dwell those aspects of ourselves we are loathe to look at.  Then the ego loses a direct connection to the body as a source of natural wisdom and energy. This kind of splitting produces excruciatingly painful dilemmas and divisions for modern people:     Rationality and feeling, sensation and intuition, body and mind — all form part of a comprehensive unity in a Jungian holistic psychotherapy.

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