Comments on: Escaping the Grip of Regret, Part 2: The Power of Regret http://www.briancollinson.ca/index.php/2010/07/escaping-the-grip-of-regret-part-2-the-power-of-regret.html Journeying Toward Wholeness Fri, 27 Jan 2012 13:00:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Brian C http://www.briancollinson.ca/index.php/2010/07/escaping-the-grip-of-regret-part-2-the-power-of-regret.html/comment-page-1#comment-74 Brian C Mon, 02 Aug 2010 22:21:21 +0000 http://www.briancollinson.ca/?p=1385#comment-74 Thank you very much for your comment, John. I think that everything that you have to say is pretty much to the point. Certainly, regret is a feature of life, and we cannot expect to just have a "regret-ectomy", and have it removed. We have to find a way to live with it, and if we can manage such an extremely painful thing, there is healing and life to be found. I hope to say something more about this in my next blog post. Thank you very much for your comment, John. I think that everything that you have to say is pretty much to the point. Certainly, regret is a feature of life, and we cannot expect to just have a “regret-ectomy”, and have it removed. We have to find a way to live with it, and if we can manage such an extremely painful thing, there is healing and life to be found. I hope to say something more about this in my next blog post.

]]> By: jamenta http://www.briancollinson.ca/index.php/2010/07/escaping-the-grip-of-regret-part-2-the-power-of-regret.html/comment-page-1#comment-73 jamenta Sun, 01 Aug 2010 23:40:42 +0000 http://www.briancollinson.ca/?p=1385#comment-73 Well written and to the point Brian. One reason why I have never subscribed to the currently in vogue cognitive theory psychology - which IMO is more like brain washing and/or attempting to make someone into some kind of cookie cutter personality, that is, someone who cognitive psychology considers healthy if they fit within some statistical norm, or achieves certain well researched cognitive theory goals. Jung I don't believe bought into this either, and probably would be the first to say that some of our deepest emotions and personality complexes can not simply be excised away, or forceably removed by the ego alone (or by drugs or a lobotomy which modern day drug therapy is little more than). Deep regrets I think you must simply learn to live with. Like a dark shadow that you cannot escape - your own shadow that indeed can be a terrible source of pain for a lifetime. Some things in life simply cannot be resolved. The West has this philosophy of eliminating our problems (and in the East they wish to simply ignore them). Jung's answer is we must live with them and learn from them - even the deepest wounds - and the deepest regrets. And only love can bring the rain. Well written and to the point Brian. One reason why I have never subscribed to the currently in vogue cognitive theory psychology – which IMO is more like brain washing and/or attempting to make someone into some kind of cookie cutter personality, that is, someone who cognitive psychology considers healthy if they fit within some statistical norm, or achieves certain well researched cognitive theory goals.

Jung I don’t believe bought into this either, and probably would be the first to say that some of our deepest emotions and personality complexes can not simply be excised away, or forceably removed by the ego alone (or by drugs or a lobotomy which modern day drug therapy is little more than).

Deep regrets I think you must simply learn to live with. Like a dark shadow that you cannot escape – your own shadow that indeed can be a terrible source of pain for a lifetime.

Some things in life simply cannot be resolved. The West has this philosophy of eliminating our problems (and in the East they wish to simply ignore them). Jung’s answer is we must live with them and learn from them – even the deepest wounds – and the deepest regrets.

And only love can bring the rain.

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